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Yeap that sweet cute boy. Not married to me, of course. but we two cute hor. ... and who's gonna miss him the most??? MEEEEE. ...

my brother is getting... MARRIED

Yeap that sweet cute boy.

Not married to me, of course.
but we two cute hor.

... and who's gonna miss him the most??? MEEEEE.

It came as a surprise to my family just about two to three weeks ago. I mean, my mom, dad and I all knew the girl was probably the one for my brother, but we didn't expect it to be THIS fast. They're getting hitched next year!!

And I'm soooo excited for the wedding. Cos... I've always been excited to attend weddings of people who are close to me. This one hit closest to home!! And who knew it'd be THIS soon??? Not me!!

ANDD who knows, I'mma be an aunt soon ;)

I already have a nickname for his kid. He/she will be the cutest I swear. Gonna be a fat kid just like my brother when he was a newborn.

My entire family's pretty hyped up about 2018, so much things going on - my bro's getting married, my dad's turning 60, my mom's gonna retire. Me? Well, that's still a surprise hahah.

My own brother isn't even THAT excited about his own wedding. Him and his girlfriend or should I say fiancee... (god damn, he hasn't even properly proposed to her yet, it's cuz they clinched the ever-most-singaporean-way-of-saying-will-you-marry-me- I don't even need to tell you what)... they're just trying to settle things like the wedding venue, blahblahblah. They're having a wedding lunch btw! (all the rage these days)

While I'm excited and happy for him, I'm also melancholic and sad that I will be "losing" my brother. I clean my house every fortnight when I don't have work, and when I clean his room, I get so pissed cos it's dirty as hell. But last week while vacuuming and mopping his room, I thought to myself, well, this room's not gonna be dirty anymore.. cos well, he ain't gonna be here no more.

Sad
sad
saddd.

I mean, we grew up together, for the entirety of our lives. We used to sleep in the same room up till we were about 9 or 10. Our favourite game was playing pretend with our soft toys. Simple as it is, the nicest thing that we'd do every night would be to say goodnight to one another before either of us slept. We were that close.

Until of course, he had a girlfriend and then I was relegated to second place HAHAH. Yknow what they say about mother-in-laws? For his girlfriend, it's the sister-in-law whom she has to watch out for. Aka, um, me?

So I guess, it's a mixture of emotions. Happiness, sadness and regret for not cherishing those moments when my brother was with me all throughout my 25 years of life. Only when he's leaving my home, do I truly realise what an awesome big brother he's been all this time.

But hey, life goes on. I'm happy for him, happy for this new life he's about to embark on. I'm excited!!! It's insane!!

And this is strange, I think writing this post has made me feel so... young again. All the exclamation marks. I feel so comfortable, yet uncomfortable at the same time, talking like that. These days my work requires me to type formally, "US President Donald Trump has denied calling North Korean leader Kim Jong-Un short and fat".

So writing this post... feels quite a relief. Yet, strange. I think you kinda understand what I'm trying to say. It's funny, cos you guys are seeing the changes in me and my personal life.

It's been a journey and I still feel close to you, the reader. And today I'm talking about my brother - someone you've prolly heard about since he's sprinkled in some of my posts. It's a big thing I'm sharing with you!!

Have I already mentioned it??

He's getting married ahhh!

My friend's birthday~ That friend was the dude I met while hiking up Mount Kinabalu last year. This year, he asked if I wanted to h...

The Chung family

My friend's birthday~
That friend was the dude I met while hiking up Mount Kinabalu last year. This year, he asked if I wanted to hike up again, and I said yes!!! (lol macam proposal)

This was us last year

And this was us this year - 23rd October
(which was also his birthday hence the first photo)
Clearly, not much has changed except for our hair maybe. 

Thankful for Xiangxi for helping my friend and I organise everythingggg, right down to the accommodation. Eventually, we hiked all the way to Laban Rata hut, BUT didn't get to summit Mount Kinabalu because of bad weather. That also means I may need to come back YET again because I haven't had the perfect experience climbing this mountain.

BUT.

I got to see amazing views this time around
And I count my blessings.
When I reached Laban Rata, I even said that if I didn't get to go up to the summit, I'm grateful enough because of the views I was given.

The point of this post isn't about my climb though - 

It's about Xiangxi's family.

This year, his siblings joined him on the hike - three others. He has two sisters and a brother. 

I'll leave you to guess which ones are his siblings.
They all have very distinct looks.

This was them celebrating his birthday for him up on the mountain. The rest were his friends.

What's special about their family is the fact that... they're still hanging out and doing things together as a unit even at this age. How many of us still do that?????

Having spent a few days with them, I felt the warmth and colour of his family. They were so open and caring to each other, as well as to others like me. Above all, they were happy.

While we hiked, they would sing. While we ate, they would bicker (endearingly). And while we talked, they would always have something to joke and laugh about. They were one of the closest families I had ever seen and whose company I had the privilege of revelling in. I enjoyed being with them very much.

I remember one day before our hike, their eldest sister had to catch a midnight flight from KL to Sabah and all three of them made sure to keep some food for her, and helped with her check-in. Things like that were simple, but it's usually the tiniest of gestures that reveal a lot about people.

I even got to meet their father. He too, was very open, friendly and kind.

What's amazing is that their father exposed all 4 of them to outdoor sports very early on in their childhood. They climbed Mount Kinabalu once as a family when the children were still in primary school and he showed me beautiful family pictures when I stepped into their beautiful home. I felt comfortable the moment I stepped inside their house. Yknow how sometimes a person wouldn't feel at home since it's someone else's? I didn't get that feeling at all. I felt instant familiarity.

I could see how love within the family helped raise the children into becoming secure and confident adults. 

I'm sure many factors played a part, but I strongly believe sports played a very big role in their upbringing.

I witnessed that when I went snorkelling with two of his siblings one day at an island.
It was my first time snorkelling, but for them - they've been exposed to this since they were kids! They're experts at diving.

I could see how relaxed, and confident they were out in the sea. And it reflected in the way they carried themselves in life. They were so in touch with nature and with themselves.

Which is what's lacking in Singapore... our kids don't go out to play that much. We stay indoors most of the time, especially so for kids of today. And our sense of worth is tied to academic grades and the schools we go to. Sure, we get the grades, but are our kids truly living?

I attended a talk recently about parenting, not cuz I'm expecting or anything, it was a talk about raising children since I was volunteering with an organisation for underprivileged kids. There was one part of the talk that said the Singapore government is still puzzled when it comes to refining the education system. 

The speaker said, "Our education system has form, but no substance".

We've got it. The form is there - the recipe to good degrees and graduates. But there is no joy for learning - there is no spirit in our children. There is no true love for learning that comes from within. Everything so far has been rote learning and our kids may seem knowledgeable but their brains aren't actually developed holistically - emotionally, socially, physically. And it's quite sad because what kind of adults are we grooming our children to be? What are they pursuing in life? Worse still, mental disorders such as depression and anxiety are on the rise among our youth. 

Something's got to give.

Which was why I was truly inspired by the Chung family. They're very confident individuals and very street smart. Something a lot of Singaporeans are lacking in. And I strongly believe it's developed through play. A LOT of playing. Our kids don't play anymore. Maybe on their phones, which only stimulates a small part of the brain.

The importance of 'play' became such a eureka moment for me. Again, I saw that through Xiangxi and his friends. 

I met some of them again this year

They were all high school buddies and Xiangxi happily chirped, "and friends forever". I know he means it. 

To him and to them, their friendship is solid and as I spoke to them, they recalled good fun times at school - where they played pranks on one another, where they made teachers cry - I felt their bond. It wasn't out of loneliness that brought them together, it was out of pure friendship. I loved listening to their stories and they were amazing. I wish I were their friend in Sabah too!

Malaysia may not have made it top in the PISA rankings, but I don't see my friends any less bright than I am. 

I am not saying the Singapore education system is bad. In fact, I think it's world-class and I would never want to study anywhere else if I had to go through it all again. I had the best education at NTU. 

I also do not see any sense in all play and no study. That's stupid. We still need to be intellectually stimulated by what we read in textbooks and have a vast breadth of knowledge about the world around us.

It's just that... our children are not developed in other areas that are necessary for survival. There is also a lack in character development.

If anything, that's my wish for the young people of today... and if ever I have the opportunity to effect such a change, it would be this: play more, live a little. I wish I had the chance to when I was in primary/secondary school/jc.

Having figured this out, it has helped me and the children I've taken under my wing.

I used to wonder how to inspire them to work hard in life. Do I bring them to the library? Make them read loadsa books? What can I do? 

But I realise... no, I take them to places where they can sing, jump and laugh a lot. That's what will breathe life into them - learning from their natural environment... 

where trees grow, fishes swim and flowers bloom

Here's me and ma twin I love to tell people that my mom and I have the same birthday. I must've been the most painful and joyful...

a quarter century old

Here's me and ma twin
I love to tell people that my mom and I have the same birthday. I must've been the most painful and joyful gift she's ever had!!

And I know this sounds terribly solemn, but I told my mom that when she's gone, my birthday would also be terribly sad because a part of me isn't celebrating together with me. They say mothers and daughters don't always get along, but I'd like to say that we always have.

The only thing I'd dispute is our horoscope. We're both Libras, but we are for sure so damn different. I am so much more like my dad in terms of personality... That's why I've never really believed in horoscopes *shrugs*

Btw it isn't my birthday just yet, it falls on the19th.

Which was why...

I was sooo surprised when they celebrated mine!!
It was just a simple cake, but truly, I think it was pure happiness that I'd felt last Thursday night. I couldn't stop smiling when my old wkw uni buds surprised me after dinner at old airport road's hawker centre. I'd always been good at sussing things out. So this one... I gotta give it to them ;-)

25... Think this is the best age to be - I'm enjoying my youth, I've got a bit of time, and I've some money.

Plus, I've my friends and familyyy

Old friends (jb outing last Sunday)
Older friends :-)

New friends...
And newer friends!!

Who also turn out to be crazy my colleagues

And as I grow older... 
and wiser...
and more self-aware....

I hope I also...

ALWAYS STAY A BIT INSANE
and remind myself that I don't know everything.
And that there's a big world out there.

Before I get excited, I must also remember to take one step at a time. That everyone is at their own pace at different stages, and comparison takes me nowhere. To do that, managing my expectations is essential. While achievements are good, a little bit of tension and hiccups are necessary.

Ommm...

It's good to be twenty five.

Am currently soooo obsessed with this song arghhh. I'll be groovinnn every single time I listen to this (which is basically every ...

Jeezers, I think I'm growing younger!!




Am currently soooo obsessed with this song arghhh. I'll be groovinnn every single time I listen to this (which is basically every minute of my life right now hahaha) Love old school song remixes.

Speakin of dancing,

LAST NIGHT'S F1 CONCERT WAS THE BOMBBBB.

With ma loverz
Sarah thiammmm -
the wkw spirit lives on in every one of us even after school la
this one needs no introduction teehhee
We were at Ariana Grande's concert (yeah i secretly love her songs it's such an embarrassment but still, she's soooo good. live as well)

Poor Huiquan was too squashed up with the mob that she had to quit half way to get some air at the back hahah.

Dustbin babies
Right after that, it was the Chainsmokers and she was BACK IN ACTION. I'm not so much a fan of them cuz so much electronic tech music. Still, we danced the night away sooo much fun!!! AM I GROWING YOUNGER??? I've been missing out on all this during uni days - broke and studying full-time - ain't nobody got time and money to be having fun then.

So now, I realise what I've been missin' out all this while HAHAH.

Still, never too late ;)
Out with Huiquan's colleagues as well - look at her cheeky face!!!

SO GLAD I CAME WITH THESE TWO
THEY'RE THE BESTTTTTT

And then the next day I had to work on a Sunday at 8am. Even before the event, I was working - I guess we can never totally be free from the shackles of society. 

Wow though, haven't had so much fun in a while aaaah!!

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